Phase 1: Initial Steps
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Overcoming The Post-Breakup Emotions
If your ex has broken up with you -- especially if it happened unexpectedly -- you will likely be going through a whirlwind of emotions. You'll probably feel the urge to break into tears, and your heartbreak may also be accompanied by feelings of anger, confusion, and hopelessness. These are all normal feelings in the wake of a breakup, but if you want to win your ex back as quickly as possible, you need to know what to do in the first few days after you and your ex broke up.
Although I realize that it may be too late for this now, there are few things you should try to avoid when your ex first breaks up with you. One of the most important is to try and avoid crying and showing your ex how distraught you really are. Watch this excellent YouTube video for more on common mistakes people make when trying to rekindle things with an ex.
Don't Fight Your Ex Over It
You may be tempted to ask your ex why he or she wants to break up. You may also be tempted to apologize to your ex for any wrongdoings and tell them that you'll change your ways if it means your ex will change their mind about breaking up. But these aren't productive actions, so it's best if you can simply accept the breakup as reality and leave as soon as possible.
You're going to have to accept that, at this point in time, nothing you say or do can help your cause. You'll also have to accept that you may be left without knowing why your ex broke up with you, and there may not be any "closure" to your relationship for now. As difficult as it may be, try to accept your ex's decision and leave them alone as soon as possible.
Tell Your Ex That Breaking Up Was A Good Idea
If you're on this website right now, chances are good that you've already left your ex alone and you're now looking to kick-start the process of winning them back. If you did make some of the mistakes I described above -- crying, apologizing, asking your ex for forgiveness -- it's not too late to repair the damages.
The most effective way to do this is to send your ex a test message or an email explaining how you think they were right and that the breakup may actually be a wise decision for now. Try saying something like, "I've thought about it a bit more and you're probably right... things haven't been going very well between us lately, and I think we've both been sitting on those feelngs. Some time apart is probably a good idea."
Once you've sent your ex this message explaining why you agree with the idea of breaking up, it's time to shut down the lines of communication. Your ex may respond to your message and try to stimulate further conversation, but now isn't the time for that.
Getting The Right Advice From The Start
Now that you and your ex have officially broken up, the task of winning him or her back can get underway. This is probably a good time to seek a step-by-step walkthrough that covers all the possible scenarios you'll encounter during your efforts to get your ex back.
Just like you wouldn't try to perform repairs on your new BMW unless you're a mechanic, you shouldn't assume that you know how to get your ex back unless you're a relationship expert. That's why I always recommend investing in a 'how to' guide from a reputable breakup guru, such as The Ex Factor Guide.
The Ex Factor Guide is a complete, 130-page manual that covers everything you'll ever need to know about winning your ex back.
Don't get me wrong, the information on this website is a great start, but as Ex Factor author Brad Browning explains in the free video on his website, most people make major mistakes that end up ruining their chances. By investing in a quality guide from an expert, you're eliminating that possibility and giving yourself the best possible chance of success.
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